Welcome to a Journey with Joyce
Building Trust for Interpersonal Wellness
Our journey this week will focus on trust as a means for developing Interpersonal Wellness®
Trust accounts for a very important aspect of our ability to develop and maintain interpersonally well relationships. First, we need to trust ourselves. This comes with developing our personal integrity. Only then will we be able to trust each other enough to be interdependent. I believe that self-trust will lead to a greater ability to develop trust in our interpersonal relationships. This past week, I spent some time reading Stephen M.R. Covey book called – “The Speed of Trust the One Thing that Changes Everything“. I recommend this book to those of you who are working to develop the spiritual wellness dimension of your life.
Many of you who are my clients have at some point work on developing your spiritual wellness. Your personal integrity is a vital part of developing self-trust. It is also important to your developing a healthy level of self-esteem. If you are currently working through the Interpersonal Wellness System book, as you strive to improve your Interpersonal Wellness Quotient (IWQ); I found many nuggets in Stephen’s book that will help you look at the issue of trust differently. I have also provided you with some reflective and coaching questions to help you figure out the trust issue for yourself. I look forward to hearing back from you.
In his book, Stephen draws the reader attention to the advantages of having trust in our Interpersonal relationships and in business. In reading his book, I think of all the situations I face where trust was an issue. According to Covey a lack of trust is very costly. He emphasized that with the arrival of 9/11 many people lost trust in flying, therefore we now have long line-ups for security checks, which amounts to a waste of time, money and productivity. What came to mind here was how much a lack of trust costs us in our personal relationships. Trust falls within the Spiritual Wellness dimension and is closely linked to hope. Often we do not trust others because we do not trust ourselves. To increase one’s spiritual wellness is to develop one’s personal trust, which in turn will require you to assess your personal integrity. Remember, trust is earned and should not be arbitrarily assigned, however it is key to having a harmonious and interpersonally well relationship. I encourage you this week to take a look at your own personal integrity and how it relates to trust.
If we keep in mind that we are interdependent and interconnected, then it will be a lot easier for us to take the appropriate actions to build trusting relationships. As you take a look your life, are there areas where you need to grow and develop trust? Are you a credible person who acts with integrity and an intention to foster Interpersonal Wellness®?
- What kinds of actions do you need to take to generate trust from others?
- Are you satisfied with your sense of integrity or is there work to be done?
- Is there an action that you are taking that is a roadblock to you trusting yourself?
- What one action will you take this week to improve trust in a relationship?