The third principle of Interpersonal Wellness is Self-Awareness. When we look back at the first two principles – number one is balance and number two being Responsible communication, it is no wonder that self-awareness is principle number three. Common sense dictates that we need to have self-awareness in order to maintain our balance and to take steps to ensure our communication is conducted in a respectful way.
One of my favourite quotes is the following by Lao Tzu: “He who knows others is wise. He who knows himself is enlightened“. Self-awareness is to know your strengths, triggers, vices, fears, disillusionments and your doubts. It is also to know what makes you happy and to have the confidence and self love to know when your cup is full. It is having the capacity to pursue peaceful times and a respite from your life stresses and irritations. It is to listen well to the other person and ask questions, instead of arguing your point. It is asking to defer a conversation for a more favourable time, so that you can consider the other person’s points of view instead of ignoring them or yelling at them. It is also to be aware of yourself and your impact on others. Have you ever asked yourself, what impact am I having on this person? What impact do I want to have and how do I want to be experienced by others? Being self-aware in the workplace is a very important factor. Those who are aware of themselves are better at being aware of others and they tend to be able to have a more positive impact on their relationships. I would like to hear from you. Is there someone at work whom you would like to be a bit more self-aware? Might you be the one that your co-workers wonder if you would be more self-aware? Remember, self-awareness will lead to Interpersonal Wellness at work. Here are five questions you could ask yourself to help improve your self-awareness:
- What impact am I having?
- What do my words and actions relay?
- Whom have I acted towards in a manner that was inconsiderate and discourteous?
- How must I act to show concern, caring and presence?
- What actions if mine today reflected my life values?
To Your Wellness
Joyce Odidison, Your Connections Coach