04 Jan Goodbye 2015
I am amazed that it’s time to say goodbye to 2015. This has been a significant life changing year for me in my personal and professional life. Over the years….
I have developed a ritual at the end of each year to reflect on how I’ve grown and map out a plan for future growth steps I may take in the coming year. I find this ritual life changing and enables me to make continuous improvements on my flawed character, as I grow older. Who knows, I may be a real gem by the time I’m 95.
The end of year is a good time to seek closure on painful episodes of the year. It is a time to extend forgiveness, be grateful for what we have and explore whom we have become after another year’s journey. I truly believe that all life successes and tragedies bring us an opportunity to expand our human spirit.
I mentioned closure before and want to explore the process further. Closure allows us to heal and begin growing the way we were meant to. It doesn’t mean we are happy about our losses nor our pains. It does mean how ever that we are ready to embrace what is left for us in this life.
Many of us have experienced losses in business, careers and in our personal lives in 2015. Saying good bye may be painful and distressing as it may mean letting go of something or someone we truly would like to keep with us. Humans are loathed to give things up, it’s just the way we are wired. We love, form attachments and accumulate things, only to leave, lose, end relationships, create new or die.
To be resilient we need to be able to say good bye, let go, move forward or get up in order for us to truly bounce back. Saying good bye affords us opportunity to heal. It allows us to reconcile ourselves to the new reality of whom we have become as a result of the events of 2015.
In 2016, we get to start over, re-engage and take on new challenges, some of us will get to love again. Saying goodbye confirms our commitment to our new beginning and is the first step in resilience.
We can’t bounce back if we don’t first get up. As I say goodbye to 2015, I think of those I lost this year;
• My brother most especially, too young to die, goodbye.
• To the hurt and other losses I suffered in 2015, goodbye.
• To every encounter I had that was frustrating and stretching, goodbye.
I will take with me the scars but not the emptiness or frustration. I will take with me the good things from all that I have learnt and embrace the opportunities to come.
I move forward with faith and in gratitude for having lived through 2015 and I look forward with hope and anticipation for 2016.
May you find healing, peace and freedom in making your goodbyes to 2015. May you learn more about yourself and who will become on your journey into the next years to come.
To your wellness,
Joyce Odidison is a Conflict Analyst Coach, who is the founder of Interpersonal Wellness Services Inc. & Coaching Institute. She consults, teaches and coaches with mid-career professionals and organizations to improve performance, skills, competencies, and workplace wellness. She can be reached at www.interpersonalwellness.com or by phone at: 1 877 999-9591.