Forgiveness Versus Reconciliation

May 22, 2009

By Joyce Odidison

May 22, 2009

By Joyce Odidison

Almost all us have been hurt or betrayed by the words, thoughtlessness, actions or inactions of another person.  This stirs up anger, frustration, and disappointment in us and often a sense of betrayal and a desire for revenge.  At times our hurt is so deep we decide to expel that person off from our life.  Often the ones who cause us the greatest pain are the ones we have trusted the most, hence the depth of our hurt, distrust, resentment and feeling of betrayal.

It is safe to say that this is the case for many individuals and coaching clients. Most are looking for ways to move forward in their lives, to overcome obstacles such as past hurts as they strive to grow or to set and reach new goals. Many are unaware that forgiveness of past hurts could be the key to their moving forward and reaching their goals. The coaching process provides an excellent structure to help clients assess the cause of their roadblocks and to examine issues of forgiveness and other “Underlying  Commitments” that may be holding them back.

Acknowledgement is a very important coaching tool to help clients with issues of forgiveness and reconciliation.  Acknowledgement of past hurts and the resulting perspectives and shift in thinking can be addressed in the coaching process if the purpose is not to relive but to move forward.  This can be instrumental in helping clients become aware of the various stages of grief and their need to acknowledge and move forward to a place of personal reconcilement with the past. When done well this may lead to forgiveness for self and at times even reconciliation of the relationship.

  1. Are you struggling with issues of forgiveness? 
  2. Is it holding you back?
  3. Do you want to move on from your past?

About the author

Joyce Odidison is a Conflict Analyst, Speaker, Author, thought leader, and the world’s leading expert on the Wellness Competency Alignment concept to improve and measure wellness behaviours in organizations. Joyce is President & CEO of Interpersonal Wellness Services Inc. for over 25. She is Founder of the Global Workplace Wellness Summit and What’s Happening at Work podcast. Joyce is the author of six books. She has Founded and leads Coach Velocity School of Coaching, an approved program by the International Coach Federation (ICF). She is the Publisher of Faces of Workplace Wellness Magazine. Joyce is a C-Suite level workplace wellness expert and corporate trainer driving inclusive workplace wellness strategies for organizations globally. She can be reached at phone 1 877 999-9591

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