If you have a job where you work with people you will have experienced difficult times or moments in your working relationship. Besides difficult intimate or family relationships difficult working relationships are the costliest and most time consuming.
Over the past twenty years, I have seen employees get ill, suffer mental and emotional breakdowns, suffer heart disease, and become suicidal due to difficult working relationships.
Since all of us need to work, it is apparent that we have a working relationship that is conducive to our ability to do our jobs efficiently and allow us to be the most productive that we can be.
Having a working relationship that is high conflict, high drama or that involves tension and conflict will impact your ability to think clearly, focus on your work fully and work without distractions. It will also cause you to feel unsafe and more likely to make mistakes.
It is best to do whatever you can to mend or end difficult working relationships because of the wear and tear they put on your emotions, mental health, and your nerves. In addition to the time wasted defending or protecting yourself from attacks of any nature.
First, you should identify how the relationship is impacting you and get a sense of how you are contributing to the current level of difficulties. Once you have done this you can plan to deal with the issues of the relationship.
To help you in this process, I have created the interpersonal relationship audit as part of our wellness assesses to help you assess how well you are doing in your relationship. This month you can access this relationship audit for free to on our website to help you get the assessment necessary to move forward with mending or ending your work relationship. Go here to access the interpersonal relationship audit.
Once you’ve determined your part in the relationship and how well you are doing in the relationship you can decide on whether to end or mend the relationship. Send me a quick note if you have a question about your assessment result.
To Your Wellness,
Joyce Odidison is a Conflict Analyst, Coach, and founder of Interpersonal Wellness Services Inc. & Coaching Institute. She consults, teaches and coaches with mid-career professionals and organizations to improve performance within the workplace. She can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org or by phone at: 1-877-999-9591.