“This is the strangest concept I have ever heard but it does make some weird sense”.
This is what Paul, one of my clients, expressed when I first introduced him to the nine-dimensional WIS® approach in 2007.
Those pesky conflicts we have at work, at home, with friends and relatives, with our employer, with our co-workers--what do they say about our well-being?
On the surface, we don’t always see how conflict with a co-worker or employer affects our well-being. But when we look deeper, like Paul was prepared to do, we see the greater connection.
When someone acts a certain way, we choose how we interpret their actions based on what is happening with us internally. Yes, all meaning comes from within us. It is a measurement of how well-aligned we are system-wise and with our environment.
We tell ourselves messages that foster our beliefs about the world and about each other. Being well in all nine dimensions increases our ability to carefully rationalize and verbalize the things that are important to us.
Being spiritually, socially, or emotionally unwell affects our whole lives and, more directly, our relationships. We are well socially when we have developed a high level of communication ensuring that we are actively listening, attending, networking, and responding responsibly.
While it is hard to see the connection initially, a wise person once said, “What we are not aware of controls us”. With effort, we can regain control of our lives. In my next post, I will show how to develop our wellness in each of the nine dimensions to improve our interpersonal wellness quotient (IWQ).
Do you know of someone who is struggling with painful interpersonal conflicts? Help them to shift their view from external to internal so they can begin to develop their wellness in one of the nine dimensions. By starting with one, all the other dimensions will gradually improve.
We also train and certify nine-dimensional WIS® coaching and WIS® facilitators who want to do this work with groups, organizations, and individuals in their networks. Check out the upcoming fall training line-up.
To Your Wellness
Joyce Odidison is a Conflict Analyst, Coach, and founder of Interpersonal Wellness Services Inc. & Coaching Institute. She consults, teaches and coaches with mid-career professionals and organizations to improve performance within the workplace. She can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org or by phone at: 1-877-999-9591.